Showing posts with label Bras. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Bras. Show all posts

24 August 2010

Bra-Burning Feminism: The Exposition of Women

A little over a month ago, my B.F.A. [Beloved Friend Andrea] and I decided to learn more about pro-pornography feminists by watching a documentary entitled "The Naked Feminist" [hey, it was only 99cents on itunes...and we followed it up with the latest DieHard movie to give us a decent dose of misogyny]. The goal in watching the movie was to better understand how people who felt differently from us thought about the sex industry; we just wanted to learn about the "other side" [we like to be informed].

Well, needless to say, it was quite an interesting viewing experience. It wound up being fairly informative about the sex industry and the role that women have had in it. Even though I don't personally support it [surprise! I find it rather demeaning to all parties involved] and have lots of issues with the situations [health risks, personal safety, etc.] that these women put themselves in, at least I can now say that I kind-of-sort-of understand where they're coming from. Much of the film focused on the supposedly positive aspects of porn, including women empowering themselves and making their own decisions about when they perform, with whom they perform, how often they work, and oftentimes women even producing or directing pornography scenes. The sex industry was presented as a kind of normal business in which women can work their ways up the hierarchical ladder.

And all these arguments are swell [kind of], but the movie neglected to seriously address the recent rise in negative pornography, that is, performances that include acts of violence or crudity that intentionally dehumanize female performers. In the film, all of the women interviewed spoke out against such trends, saying that the women participating in these violent films are not as empowered as they should be---if they were, they wouldn't partake in them. True; these women probably do have deep seeded psychological issues. BUT, it is also true that the introduction of the porn industry is precisely what opened up the doors to such violent actions.

No matter how much the women in the documentary wanted to undermine recent trends in porn and vehemently spoke out against its practices, the fact remains that the very industry they support, the "positive porn," is the grandmother of these new trends. As Nathan Harden writes in his recent article reviewing a new book [Pornland],:

[T]he goal of much [pornography today] seems to be to depict the maximum amount of humiliation for the girl on screen. One website proudly offers its customers the opportunity to "access total degradation."

That's right. Pornography sights are advertising degradation and dehumanization. Lovely.

So, what does this reveal about "good" porn? Well, personally, I think it shows that there really is no such thing as "good" porn if it led to something as terrible as the degradation that happens today. Even though some porn may be objectively better than others, the fact remains that the initially "well-intentioned" pornography wound up leading to a business culture in which certain women do terrible things that truly humiliate them as people.

It was the introduction of the porn industry and the initial female zealous support of it that opened the door to a future that would allow such terrible things. The wave of bra-burning feminism that swept the country in the 1960s was all about sexual liberation of women--liberation from rules, social guidelines and, ultimately, any notion of sexual morality. But this empowerment and sense of liberation, in my mind, was not, and is still not, at all genuine. Sometimes strictures are precisely what allow for true liberation. In the case of female sexuality, I really think concepts of modesty and chastity are essential to female empowerment. Deciding when and with whom to perform agreed upon sex acts on film is not my idea of liberation [it really is a capitalist-driven industry that legally permits the selling of bodies]; rather, being empowered enough to show yourself [fully clothed...& in public] as a person who demands perennial respect is true liberation from male-domination. It is such personal moral guidelines that allow for true equality and mutual respect. Pornography was never destined to liberate women---women are more than sexual objects. And true equality comes from respectable personhood rather than dangerously thoughtless over-exposure.

It's depressing to think about where misguided bra-burning feminism has taken the porn industry---it has exposed women to, perhaps, greater inequality and disrespect than before [even though the minority of women are in these performances, the performances themselves create a culture that fosters disrespect...the average age of exposure to porn is now 11 for boys]. It ennerves me to no end.

I wholeheartedly believe that a lady should have standards for herself and how others treat her. It is the best defense against the threats of frightening misogyny.

14 March 2009

RANT #1 [note: very girly discussion to follow]

We all ignore the problem, we all try to look the other way but can't help but look back at the issue, we all never say or do anything to actually solve the problem...No, I'm not talking about anything political. The problem at hand is that of the all-too-liberating "bra-less" revolution. Just last week, I went to 7AM Saturday Mass only to be faced with a woman in her mid-50s sporting a [too small] tennis outfit and...NO BRA. I couldn't stand it. A big part of me wanted to walk over to her and ask her to zip up her [again, too small] jacket to at least cover up the thin, shiny material that revealed everything.

And this isn't an isolated instance. I see women "liberating" themselves by refusing to wear the proper undergarments on an almost daily basis. Upon googling "why women shouldn't wear bras," you will quickly find a website which claims that bras cause breast cancer [insane]. Even if I did encounter a woman not wearing a bra who told me she did it so that she wouldn't get cancer, I wouldn't believe her; I mean, if you're going to refuse to properly dress yourself to oppose social norms, at least be proud of your stance.

So, I guess the train of thought behind NOT wearing a bra may be along the lines of that of Cameron Diaz': "I'm a tomboy at heart!" or something like: "We're all human! Women should embrace their breasts---they are nothing to 'confine.' Bras are just modern-day gurdles that suppress a woman's femininity" While I can kind of, sort of, maybe see where these women are coming from, the facts [well, according to me] are as follows:
  • Women simply look nicer when they wear the proper undergarments. Wearing a bra accentuates a lady's nice features, thus accentuating her femininity, and it demonstrates more of an "embracing" of a woman's physical being than not wearing one. There's no point in going bra-less if it just makes people shutter at the sight; if anything, it makes others think less of you because of this terrifying first impression. I mean, if a man decided to never shave to embrace his "masculinity," it would be generally unacceptable.
  • Not wearing a bra, for most, would most likely prove painful. This is especially true for athletic activities, such as running or tennis [ahem].
  • Clothes look better with the proper undergarments. Don't tell me otherwise. I'm right on this one. If you're going to invest in nice clothes, you should don them properly.
  • THE ONLY TIME IT'S OKAY to go bra-less is within the comfort of your home, when you have no guests and aren't expecting guests any time soon.
Women should be proud to embrace their femininity in every way possible, and wearing the proper support is one such way of embracing our womanly nature. In doing so, a woman clearly, visually separates herself from her male counterparts [especially those potbelly fellows who have large protrusions on their chests...maybe they should wear bras as well to prevent themselves from hurting their backs, but that's another issue completely]. By not wearing a bra, I feel like women are not doing themselves any justice, and it's just not a pretty sight. No one wants to see that much of any woman.

This being said, as my friend Lauren once proposed, I am totally in favor of mandatory bra fittings for all women. Unless a bra fits properly, it won't do what it's supposed to. Come on, haven't you seen those women who have a second muffin top around their ribcage? Or what about those women who choose to have overly-extreme cleavage? Gross, right? Well, if these women were properly fitted for their bras, we wouldn't have a problem. While I'd rather have women wear ill-fitting bras than no bras at all, the reality is that wearing a poorly fitting bra is nearly as bad. A bad bra purchase can yield unnecessary pain for a woman and also sore eyes for all that have to see her.

On a similar note, it is not CUTE to have your bra show through your white t-shirt. I don't care if your bra has Swarovski crystals all over it---it's not meant to be seen. Wear a nude bra...it's better for everyone. In fact, it's not cute to have your bra show EVER; so, like I said, having properly fitting bras is essential to maintaining a stylish and classy appearance.

My message to all ladies:
Go to a department store. Get properly fitted for a bra. Buy bras that look nice under your clothes. You, the people around you, and your clothes [yes, clothes have feelings, too] will all be better off.